Setting the Scene: Holiday Informal Events and Etiquette Pointers

The Velvet Table - October 2, 2023

Setting the Scene: Holiday Informal Events and Etiquette Pointers

With the holidays right around the corner, it is often time to move from a casual event to something with a bit more formality to it. Whether it's a family holiday event, a friends-giving, or a small celebration, knowing how to set an informal table is key to making your guests feel welcome and comfortable. In this post, we'll discuss the elements of an informal table setting and provide some pointers on event etiquette.

Understanding the Difference: Casual vs. Informal Table Settings

Before we dive into setting an informal table, it's important to distinguish between a casual and an informal table setting. These terms may seem interchangeable, but there are subtle differences that can significantly impact the overall atmosphere of your event.

Casual Table Setting

A casual table setting is often used for relaxed and informal gatherings. It's a more simplified arrangement, usually suited for family dinners, brunches, or impromptu get-togethers. In a casual setting, you'll find the basics like dinner plates, utensils, glassware, and napkins. The focus is on comfort and ease of use.

Informal Table Setting

An informal table setting is a step up in terms of formality compared to a casual setting. It's used for occasions where you want to add a touch of elegance without being overly formal. An informal setting includes a more elaborate arrangement, often featuring additional elements like salad plates, soup bowls, multiple utensils, and more intricate glassware.

Now that we understand the distinction, let's proceed to set an informal table for your next event!

Elements of an Informal Table Setting

An informal table setting is all about creating a balanced and inviting atmosphere for your guests. Here are the key elements and their placements:

Dinner Plates:

Place the dinner plates at the center of each setting. Napkins: Fold the napkins neatly and place them either on the dinner plate or to the left of it.

Utensils:

Arrange utensils based on the courses you're serving. Forks go to the left of the plate, and knives and spoons go to the right. Forks are typically arranged in the order they'll be used, from the outside in.

Glassware:

Set glasses to the right, above the utensils. The water glass goes above the knife, and other glasses (for wine, etc.) are arranged from left to right in the order they will be used.

Bread Plate and Butter Knife:

Place the bread plate on the left, above the fork, with the butter knife horizontally across the plate.

Salad Plates and Bowls:

If serving salad or soup, place the appropriate plates or bowls above the dinner plate.Centerpiece: Add a centerpiece that complements the theme of the event but doesn't obstruct guests' views or conversations.

Event Etiquette:

In addition to setting the table, maintaining good event etiquette is crucial to ensuring a pleasant dining experience for your guests. Here are some pointers:

Arrival Time:

Clearly communicate the start time of the event and encourage guests to arrive punctually. Unlike a casual event, which can often be more come-and-go, these events will typically have more structure.

Seating Arrangement:

Plan the seating arrangement strategically to encourage mingling and comfortable conversations among guests.

Introductions:

If guests don't know each other, introduce them to facilitate a friendly atmosphere.

Serving Food and Drinks:

Wait for all guests to be seated before serving food. Serve from the left and clear from the right. Offer beverages to the right of the guest.

Thanking Your Guests:

Express your gratitude for attending the event before guests depart.

The holidays are a time for special celebrations, and often we will want to make those celebrations memorable. Knowing the difference between a casual and informal event will ensure your guest will know what to expect from your event! Remember, creating a warm and inviting atmosphere is the key to a successful table setting and a memorable event.